"Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? We are all meant to shine, as children do. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same..." -Marianne Williamson
Stereotypes regarding physical appearance and numerous other sweeping statements have been made about Asians. And at one point or another Chinese adoptees may feel the sting of these broad and sometimes untrue statements. When I was younger I didn't feel "smart" enough to be Asian, just because I did not excel at mathematics. Kids would come up to me and ask for homework help just because I looked as if I would be "good at math". I was ashamed and embarrassed that I couldn't help them. I felt inadequate and quite stupid. This was detrimental to my self esteem, for years I never felt that I was smart enough. Things have changed as I have matured. I have learned to not listen to other kids and the silly things that they sometimes say.
A word of advice to parents:
Kids can be really mean. I didn't know I was being stereotyped or bullied, I thought I WAS THE PROBLEM, and so I never told my parents. By the way I love my parents with all my heart and they did everything right! Please explain stereotypes to your children so that your child will understand that he or she is not the problem and that the statements are NOT true. They are simply stereotypes.
A word of advice to kids:
You are brilliant, talented, special, unique and amazing! Don't listen to silly things that other kids say about you. Be proud that you came from such a rich and wonderful culture. Be proud of your adopted culture too. Always remember that Chinese children are some of the most beautiful children in the world.