tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-522814650086132445.post4602884207024227038..comments2023-09-13T05:46:15.620-04:00Comments on Two Worlds, One Story...What's Yours?: On Being AdoptedChina's Children Internationalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14089606581550350305noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-522814650086132445.post-40833286826198879792013-11-12T21:30:27.623-05:002013-11-12T21:30:27.623-05:00I was adopted from Anhui when I was 20 months, and...I was adopted from Anhui when I was 20 months, and I share a lot of similar feelings. Peopke ask where I'm from and I feel awkward deciding if I should give them the answer they are seeking or how I feel. I have always known I was adopted but its not really something I think about much because I'm just...me. I also have kept in touch with people from my orphanage. Ive always taken Chinese but without much motivation or real desire to learn the language and culture although pronunciation cones easy to me. This summer I had the opportunity to go to China and coming back I've been more interested in being adopted and studying Chinese with greater seriousness. I'm often put off when people say I'm so lucky and that my mom is such a generous woman for choosing me. Neither of us feel this way; she's my mother and I'm her daughter.TYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10159532483002949430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-522814650086132445.post-40223068356195232742011-06-30T09:47:53.438-04:002011-06-30T09:47:53.438-04:00Michelle~
I have not always felt that I didn't...Michelle~<br />I have not always felt that I didn't want to meet my parents. It has actually quite recently that I decided I felt this way. I love my parents in America and there is nothing that I would do to change the course of events that led me to them.<br /><br />I rarely think of my birth parents because it makes me feel sad, I will probably never know the two people who gave life to me. Because I don't really know them, I don't know if I love them. They gave me up. I'm sure they had a good reason and I'm sure it was tough, but they abandoned their beautiful baby girl. If they didn't want me, why did they conceive me? If I were to meet them, like I said in the essay I believe it would be awkward. Would they have the right to take me back, now that China is being more flexible?<br /><br />My birth parents are always this distant shadow that I'll always be aware of but never truly know. I'm glad that I was adopted and I'm sad I never got to know my birth parents, but I'm happy with my life without them, by not knowing who they are doesn't change where I want to be.<br /><br />I hope this answer helps you!China's Children Internationalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14089606581550350305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-522814650086132445.post-8213482371074212142011-06-30T00:39:28.406-04:002011-06-30T00:39:28.406-04:00Thanks for your perspective. I have 8 & 11 ye...Thanks for your perspective. I have 8 & 11 year old girls from China. The older one has always wanted to go back to China and find her Chinese mother. It is an issue we talk about and deal with a lot. You say that you wouldn't want to meet your Chinese parents. Have you always felt that way? And if not, what, besides time, helped you reach that point?<br /><br />Thanks for allowing me to gain a glimpse into the thoughts of an older adoptee. It is very meaningful for me!<br /><br />Michelle in CaliforniaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-522814650086132445.post-82029278313149348942011-06-27T23:50:15.917-04:002011-06-27T23:50:15.917-04:00Great post, Kelly. I so appreciate your unique per...Great post, Kelly. I so appreciate your unique perspective, especially since I am parenting a Chinese daughter who is now 2 years old. I appreciate hearing your heart in words and feel like it better prepares me to parent her. My 7 year old (bio) daughter is taking Chinese on Sunday afternoons now. I hope to start my Chinese daughter with lessons when she is about 4 or 5 years old. I agree with you that I think it's important. Looking forward to reading more posts from you all!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04910258636674801379noreply@blogger.com